Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Teen Talk Tuesday: Happy Valentine's Day!



What do today's teens think about Valentine's Day? Is it romantic, or no? Fun or disappointing? 

To start today's Teen Talk Tuesday, I got some students' views on Valentine's Day. The worst story I heard was from a boy who caught his girlfriend cheating on him on Valentine's Day. Another student told me about the awful time when she'd thought her mom had forgotten to send her something to school and how it always breaks her heart to see her classmates sad that special day when nothing arrives for them. What did they most enjoy getting? Flowers and chocolates.

However, not all kids hope for presents. Some find the holiday overated. One of my seniors said he dislikes Valentine's altogether because he's "not romantic in the least." Just as adults often complain about the commercialism of holidays, one boy said the holiday was too expensive, and another girl said she hated seeing so much red and pink together.  Not surprisingly, most of my teens mentioned that being single on Valentine's Day sucked.

What did they like the most about the holiday? The majority of both girls and guys said "being part of a couple in love."

Do you have something you want to know from a teen's perspective? Post your question, and we'll get back to you with their answer.


16 comments:

Christina Lee said...

Hi there, over from YA Highway! *waves* VERY interesting. The same pressures/expectations everyone feels! :-(((

Colin Smith said...

Some things never change. When I was a teen, the happiest people on Valentine's Day seemed to be those in a relationship, you also had your Valentine's Day haters, and you had those singles who wished they could enjoy the day with someone. *sigh*. An interesting insight, Sandi. Thanks!

Sandi said...

Hi, Colin and Christina! These kids' stories reminded me of the weirdest thing I ever got as a high school senior: a Valentine in my locker from a secret admirer...I was engaged to my future hubby at the time! Needless to say, Hubs wasn't pleased. Lol!

Sarah Enni said...

Oh man, I remember all the complaints in high school from guys about how expensive Valentine's Day gifts were! I do think they felt a lot of pressure, so I understand it :) And LOL at the girl who dislikes red and pink together!

These insights are so fun, keep the posts coming!

Donelle Lacy said...

I'd love to tell these kids that they don't have to give in to social pressures, that they don't have to feel bad on Valentine's Day. It's there if you want to celebrate it, and if not, you don't have to. Singles often feel pressured to find a boyfriend/girlfriend before Valentine's Day so they aren't alone. And couples (particularly the guys) feel pressure to buy expensive gifts. As soon as teens realize they don't have to give in to all this pressure, the better.

Sandi said...

Thanks Sarah. The kids ask me all the time now if I have a question for them! They look forward to sharing.

Christine Macdonald said...

Question: Does anyone feel pressured to have sex on this day, and how do they handle it?

Great post idea.

Here's to you - and all of us this special day!

Christine
@thatgalkiki

Angelica R. Jackson said...

I had a few friends in high school that really put the guilt trip on their boyfriends to get them some nice jewelry on Valentine's Day. These were the same ones that *knew* they were going to be together forever, but often weren't. I always wondered if the guys asked for those diamond earrings back when they broke up. . .

Sandi said...

I just spoke with a junior boy who was very disgusted with the way girls pressured the guys for gifts on every holiday. He said even the single girls gave him grief, complaining about how they didn't have a bf to give them anything.

Sandi said...

Christine, I did have a boy tell me with a wink that he wasn't expecting "gifts."

Liz Parker said...

This is a great take on this YA Highway lovefest! Thanks for sharing your insight.

Sandi said...

Thanks Donelle! And I'm sure that our school isn't the only one that's hammered today with gifts and stressed students. It's sad though.

Brinda said...

Whether teen or adult, everybody wants to be loved on V-Day! I love these teen insights.

Sandi said...

Thanks, Liz. It's been fun!

Brinda, so true! Even though my own boys are nearly grown, they still like to be remembered.

Elodie said...

Thanks for sharing Sandi :D
It´s funny to see that the feelings seem to the same across the generations...
In France, Valentine´s Day is definitely not as big and in High School, it did not make much of a splash :D

Sarah Nicolas said...

I don't think I ever had a Valentine when I was in high school, but I never felt bad about it. Giving my friends candygrams and all that was always fun.

It's funny to see the same complaints from your teens and my friends and even my *ahem* older friends :-)